Those three words have meant more than any others in the history of romance and love, but nowadays, teenagers throw them around as causally as any other. So how early is too early? There are three main tips, on evaluating where you, as an individual, stand in your relationship. These are to know when you are ready, and when the time is right.
First of all, say it when your heart tells you to, never because the words just happen to be on the tip of your tongue. If you’re enjoying someone’s company so much, that you just feel the need to say those words, you should really re-think the true depth of your emotions. Love nowadays is so easily confused with simple friendship, and kindred feelings. On a larger scale, if what Romeo and Juliet shared was love, maybe what you and your lover share is much less than you really think. So many people get caught up in their romancing, that they forget the truest fact of all; there will always be someone better off than you in every aspect of life.
Second, don’t feel like you are being suppressed. If you aren’t saying I love you, for the simple reason that you are scared of rejection or the other person’s reaction, the time is not right; or the partner you are with intimidates you more than he or she should. Don’t ever use I love you as a way to ignite a romantic relationship, or it could startle the other person, as some people have commitment issues. It’s very unlikely that two friends both share a forever hidden love, that they have never shared. If you see for yourself that your friend is interested, ask him/her, and maybe set up a date to get to know each other all over again on a more romantic level.
The last thing to judge is how your relationship is going in other aspects. If you are still stuck in the ‘occasional date’ phase, then your relationship isn’t very serious. You should feel free, and confident that you both feel the same way before telling your significant other how you feel. Once you’ve reached the point where you call, and see the person quite often, it could be time to express your love. Everyone is different, and everyone has different beliefs on commitment and engagement in a love pair. Time is a very important factor in relationships. Sometimes you need to step back and ask yourself, ‘does this person occupy most of my everyday life?’ If the answer is yes, reach out for the person, and see if the feeling is mutual.
Overall, let the words pass from your hearts to your brains. From the ages eighteen to past the grave, the community has thoroughly over-used those three words. When it feels natural to say, the time will be right. However, a word for the wise. Don’t sit with your heart closed off because of how common love has become. Go out and live to discover it.
Sunday, March 1, 2009
Saturday, February 28, 2009
Risks of Internet Dating
Risks of Internet Dating
As the world of technology grows, the next generation grows with it. Teenagers spend on average, more than 3 hours a day on the computer. Parents may put different anti-viruses on their child’s computers, but truly, how many parents can truly guarantee that their children are doing absolutely nothing foolish? None, is the answer to that question, and it is simply sad that nobody has thought of how many dangerous things can affect the minds of so many people.
Megan Meie just recently passed away from a scam boyfriend. Parents of a friend she had just recently fell out with, created a fake boyfriend to woo Megan and then drop her while she was at the top of her affection. It was consider to be one of the most heinous, calculated, vile acts ever committed by an adult to a defenceless teenager. Because of a tragic scam, Megan Meie took her own life. Many teenagers do the same. These days, love is so important to the innocent spirit of a child. Taking it away is such a heartbreak to the child. A very obvious reason to stay away from internet dating is how much pain it could end up causing. To fall so hard for someone you know virtually nothing about, is putting way too much money on the table. When there is a whole world outside your door, full of men and woman that are available and real, why confine yourself to just one room and just one computer.
Also, before you throw yourself into a chat room, think about how many people you know that are datable. Although many people don’t like stepping past the friend zone, in some cases it is better to hit it off romantically with an old friend, than with a complete stranger. If you were to date a stranger, and meet him without knowing anything about him, you could already be so in love that you would give yourself to him, and gain instead something not worth any amount of love. AIDS, or maybe Herpes; incurable STD’s.
That leads to the last point. Not many people are aware of how many predators there are online. Old, perverted men sometimes prey on younger girls to get sex out of them, when it is universally known that sex under the age or 18 is illegal. Cases like such are way too common and men older than thirty should know much better than to pose as a sixteen year old to get with a younger female. It’s purely wrong to try and disguise yourself. In some cases, the older predators have actually met up with their prey and raped them. There are serious offences to these crimes ranging from a couple of years in jail to a life sentence, depending on the individual case.
To sum it up, when so many dangers are lurking around the corner, why make it a necessity to click just a few buttons and open so many doors to dangerous things. Instead, keep those doors closed, and go find true love in the community outside the virtual world.
As the world of technology grows, the next generation grows with it. Teenagers spend on average, more than 3 hours a day on the computer. Parents may put different anti-viruses on their child’s computers, but truly, how many parents can truly guarantee that their children are doing absolutely nothing foolish? None, is the answer to that question, and it is simply sad that nobody has thought of how many dangerous things can affect the minds of so many people.
Megan Meie just recently passed away from a scam boyfriend. Parents of a friend she had just recently fell out with, created a fake boyfriend to woo Megan and then drop her while she was at the top of her affection. It was consider to be one of the most heinous, calculated, vile acts ever committed by an adult to a defenceless teenager. Because of a tragic scam, Megan Meie took her own life. Many teenagers do the same. These days, love is so important to the innocent spirit of a child. Taking it away is such a heartbreak to the child. A very obvious reason to stay away from internet dating is how much pain it could end up causing. To fall so hard for someone you know virtually nothing about, is putting way too much money on the table. When there is a whole world outside your door, full of men and woman that are available and real, why confine yourself to just one room and just one computer.
Also, before you throw yourself into a chat room, think about how many people you know that are datable. Although many people don’t like stepping past the friend zone, in some cases it is better to hit it off romantically with an old friend, than with a complete stranger. If you were to date a stranger, and meet him without knowing anything about him, you could already be so in love that you would give yourself to him, and gain instead something not worth any amount of love. AIDS, or maybe Herpes; incurable STD’s.
That leads to the last point. Not many people are aware of how many predators there are online. Old, perverted men sometimes prey on younger girls to get sex out of them, when it is universally known that sex under the age or 18 is illegal. Cases like such are way too common and men older than thirty should know much better than to pose as a sixteen year old to get with a younger female. It’s purely wrong to try and disguise yourself. In some cases, the older predators have actually met up with their prey and raped them. There are serious offences to these crimes ranging from a couple of years in jail to a life sentence, depending on the individual case.
To sum it up, when so many dangers are lurking around the corner, why make it a necessity to click just a few buttons and open so many doors to dangerous things. Instead, keep those doors closed, and go find true love in the community outside the virtual world.
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